Thinking about going to the USA as an Au Pair? It’s a decision worth thinking through carefully — this isn’t a regular holiday trip, but months of life in a foreign country, separation from family and friends, adapting to the rules of a host family, and daily responsibility for children. Do you have enough openness, patience, and flexibility to manage that?
On the other hand, being an Au Pair is a chance to learn the language, travel around the U.S., and experience a new culture. And yes—it sounds as exciting as it is. We’ll help you decide by showing what being an Au Pair in the USA entails, what qualities help in this role, and what to consider before confidently saying, “Yes, I want to go!”
What is the Au Pair program in the United States?
Under this program, you live with a host family and, in exchange for childcare help, receive housing, meals, and pocket money. The program typically lasts 12 months, with possible extensions.
Childcare is the main task: preparing meals, taking kids to school or activities, planning games, and helping with homework. In the U.S., working hours are strictly regulated — no more than 45 hours per week (up to 10 hours per day), with at least 1.5 days off per week and two weeks of paid vacation yearly.
As an Au Pair, you immerse yourself in American culture, attend language courses, and improve your English. You’re not just a nanny—you’re a temporary family member, like an older sister or brother. It’s primarily a cultural exchange program—you’re supposed to benefit as much as your host family.
Are you ready to become an Au Pair in the USA?
The U.S. requires 40–45 working hours per week—intensive childcare and daily duties. It’s not for everyone—check if you possess the necessary qualities and skills.
Independence and responsibility
You’ll manage kids’ daily schedules: meals, activities, homework. Skills in time management and quick decision-making are essential. You are responsible for their safety, so self-reliance and responsibility are key traits.
Willingness to work intensively with children
Not everyone enjoys spending long hours with kids. In the U.S., Au Pairs can work up to 10 hours daily, so you should genuinely enjoy caring for children, showing patience, and creativity.
If you lack experience, start with weekend or evening babysitting to test your readiness before moving abroad.
Communicativeness
Basic English is needed—but communication is about listening, asking clarifying questions, and expressing yourself clearly. You’ll need to talk with the host family and children from day one. These skills are vital even if your English isn’t perfect yet.
Flexibility
Living full-time in someone else’s home for up to a year means adapting to their rules. You may love loud music or late nights, but you’ll need to adjust. Being reliable, punctual, and culturally aware is essential. Misunderstandings often stem from cultural differences—open conversation helps solve them.
Am I ready?
Before saying “I want to be an Au Pair in America!” ask yourself:
- Why do I want to be an Au Pair? — travel, English, cultural bonds?
- Am I ready to be away from family for a year?
- Are language learning and cultural exchange my priority? — if you’re in it just for money, consider different options.
What next?
After reading this article, reflect on and research honest experiences from other Au Pairs. Their perspectives can guide you. Good luck!
FAQ
Can I switch host families if it doesn’t work out?
Yes—through a “rematch.” This takes a few weeks and is handled by your agency.
Can I have another job outside the Au Pair program?
No—J‑1 visa only allows program-related work.
Can I choose which U.S. state I’ll stay in?
Not exactly—the family selects you, but you can share preferences with the agency.
What else does the host family provide besides housing and pocket money?
They guarantee housing, food, support, and often extras like a car, a phone, and help with relatives’ childcare. All this creates a true family atmosphere.
